Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Tic Toc

First off, thank you for the prayers and encouraging words. My FIL is doing well. Went home from the hospital yesterday afternoon. After several Dr. appointments today he is doing and everything is routine. 

I've spent a lot of time watching the clock this past week. Having to be here - there - everywhere. 

I'm so thankful that God touched my body so that I was able to help my family. Because Lord knows I could have not done it with out him. J has had to work almost everyday and I knew it was going to be hard for him not to be with his parents during all this. 

The day of the surgery was very difficult. When my FIL made it out we just all felt such a relief. I was happy to see his ol' onery self :)

Day 2 in hospital. Josh stayed by his side everyday after work. He loves his dad.
Seeing him after surgery jolted us a bit, seeing someone you love on a ventilator is tough.

I have to say I've been disappointing in people. I know people fail, but this was a big deal and my family could have used the extra support from theirs. However, I feel so blessed to have pastors, extended family, friends come to show support and encouragement. Making that extra effort. 

I have some things to say about Facebook making us lazy but I will save that for another post. :)
Through all this I'm trying to keep my head above water with this class. But after a very late study group I do feel a little more confident.Thursday night it is over. whew

Above all I am thankful. God has been faithful to my family and he has his hand on us. I pray that God would continue to get Glory through all this. Because with out him I am nothing... 

Until ... when ever I can... 

Staying Hopeful, 
Aunt LaLa

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Tuesday, July 23, 2013


Surgery day is here.

I know things have been quiet around here.

To much to go into at this moment since I'm blogging from my phone.

My father in law is having triple bypass surgery and valve replacement right at this moment.

So prayers are appreciated.

When we have these difficult times in life it can be so overwhelming. And maybe things change in their importance to you.

Being a student and in the hardest class of your program it is so stressful, because honestly I could care less about writing a paper, staring at text books, studying for a test.

I just want to take care of and serve my family. I know God will give me strength, and my family strength.

Thank you for all the kind words and prayers.

Aunt LaLa

Monday, July 15, 2013

Choosing to Stay

When we got married I knew that marriage was not all fun and happy times.

You go through life together...

The ups the downs and the in-between
There have been some really highs and some really lows.
But we have CHOSE to be together and fight for what we have.
I prayed for my husband from the age of 13. I didn't want to settle for second best. I wanted my prince charming.

A conversation I had with my best buddy is sticking with me.
We get caught up in life. And we take for granted that we have that special person. We get used to the care they give us.
Double check with yourself. Are you appreciative of what your spouses did for you? When is the last time you thanked your spouse for going to work for your.family?
Do you nag?
Try to change them?
Snap at them?

Don't take for granted that your spouse chooses to stay every day... there are other choices. You know them.
So let's be a thankful for that choice...

Food for thought...no I wasn't thinking about leaving J :) 

Aunt LaLa

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Wednesday, July 10, 2013


I wonder if people realized how clumsy or awkward I am? 

I'm a pretty confident person and I'm pretty comfortable with myself. 

Occasionally the insecurity will creep up. I feel out of place and different. 

For instance here are a few awkward or clumsy things about my self...

~ I laugh at the most inappropriate times. I have done this since I was a kids. I chuckle, its a deep throaty chuckle too! Ok, maybe not deep or that throaty... Anyway like yesterday as I am sitting listening to the dangers of my FIL's surgery I start to chuckle at random things the Dr says.  Oh boy...

~ When I'm at the grocery store and someone is coming at me in the same direction I get over as soon as they do then we both go back and forth... I can't stay still. I over correct only to make a really awkward encounter. 

~Oh the plethora of stories I could tell you of me slipping, tripping, diving to the floor, and falling on my butt! Ones of tripping at a gas station right in front of the boy I was currently in-love with at 14
 me lifting up a table with my BELLY in front of about 100+ police officers graduating my first year in college then it slamming down hard making the entire foyer echo
last week slipping in front of the entire food court at the mall while my grandmother who isn't even half my size tried to catch me... see what I mean?

There are a few reasons I think I do this... 
1. I'm just not what you call "graceful"... I shuffle my feet and do not watch where I am walking
2. I'm in thought. There are times when there is so much going on and my mind is on a roller coaster. 
3. I chuckle because I'm awkward...When I'm feeling an extreme emotion whatever it is I'm crying or chuckling...

On a positive note.. J thinks I'm cute. God made me who I am. At least my emotions are coming out... that means I am trying to get away from my "Pushdownism" (Click to see definition)

But hey, this is me, Aunt Lala :)

In the words of one of my 17 yr old students when he told me he didn't need any training for a job...
"Because, hey, I'm me" 

Happy Blogging!

Thursday, July 4, 2013

White Line Police

One of the funniest things happened while we were on vacation in April! J reminded me of it a couple days ago and I was like

 "Why have I not shared this hilarious story!?"

We were on our way back to our hotel - everyone engrossed in conversation about our experience at Margaritaville. We were having such a great time no one else saw this man standing on the corner at the red light. 

I am people watcher. When I'm out and about I notice everyone's behaviors. I hear lots of conversations... and it does not help that I learned at a young age to read lips... 

Ooops the secret is out :)

So as J pulls up to the red light this man starts to yell something and pointing that car. Now I had my window down to get some breeze all I could here him say was


So I'm watching him pace back and forth as he talks into his shirt. Yes his shirt. Then he starts to shout again.. 

"You crossed it! You crossed it!" 

I get J's attention and tell him to look at this guy right as I do that he CHARGES at the car while reaching into his pocket! My window was still down!

Scared me to death! I roll my window up as fast as it would go! 

All the while the guy is saying something about the police, white lines, and crossing them!

He goes behind our car and starts to type on the cell phone he pulled out of his pocket... Like he is getting our license plate

As the light turns green he gets all calm walk over to the passenger side (where I am) and says

"OK you can go!" And waves us on like a traffic cop! I started just laughing!

It possibly could have been out of fear or just the hilarity of this guys obsession with the white lines. 

 I look back to see that he is directing traffic from his corner. 

 Which later on I couldn't stop thinking about him getting our tag... What if find out where we lived!? I mean your tag says a lot. State and city where you reside. That was an uncomfortable thought... But my paranoia subsided and I was able to move on...

So if you decide to visit Myrtle Beach... You BETTER stop BEFORE the white line! :) 

Have a great 4th!

Staying Hopeful, 
Aunt LaLa


Wednesday, July 3, 2013


In one moment of life everything can change... 

The things you were concerned about fall by the wayside...

My last post was asking for prayer for my father-in-law (FIL). I do appreciate the prayers for him and the kind words. I'm grateful and yet fearful at what they found. He will have to have triple bypass surgery along with another procedure to fix a vein behind his heart. 

You can imgine the feelings of anxiousness when they wheeled him back to his room and told us the procedure could not be done instead he would have to have this life altering surgery. 

We sat and talked to the doctors and surgeons. Listening to the pro-cons, statistics, family history... that is when I felt my heart go to my throat and almost lost it. 

My FIL was talking about his dad having a massive heart attack in his thirties. J is 32. 

I thought I would lose it right there. J is my life. I can not imagine what I would do if....

So as I am sitting there I was feeling anger, anxiousness, worry, and plain FEAR. 

Angry... for not being more concerned for our health, anxiousness for all that was going on and what would happen over the next couple of months.... worry and fear.. came along for the ride with the rest of my emotions. 

I looked at J, and I know he could hear my thoughts most of them his own. 

We left the room to give his dad and mom some time. As we found a corner to be by ourselves. Things are going to change starting immiediatly. 

Grocery list changed. My drive to be healthier changed. My drive to push J changed. Exercising changing. At one point in my  anxiousness I told him and I qoute

"If I have to be the biggest naggiest wife you ever saw... so bet it! We are not going to go through this."

Realistically I know that is not me however I buy the groceries and do most of out budget so my decisions effect alot of our life style. 

My  FIL finds out when his sugery is on Tuesday so please be in prayer for us all. For health, being healthier, and making better decisions.

To say last week was stressful is an understatement. 

I must walk by faith not by sight (2 Cor 5:7)

Staying Hopeful, 
Aunt LaLa