Sunday, December 29, 2013

Why do people get married?

This post is part of the Happy Wives Club Blog Tour which I am delighted to be a part of along with hundreds of inspiring bloggers. To learn more and join us, click here! 

This blog tour had me thinking of what I wanted to say about marriage... I look around me and I see some unhappy marriages and I see some HAPPY WIVES :) (happy marriages)

When I see the unhappy ones I wonder if they have forgotten why they got married in the first place? 

I think even a happy and healthy marriage you have those bad days where there is miscommunications, hurt feeling, and unmet expectations. 

I love my hubs, I'm a HAPPY WIFE! But guess what? My Josh and I are human and boy do we fail. 

On those days where it seems we are just "off" or maybe it is a transitional period or what ever life throws at you maybe it would be a good idea to remind your self why you married the man/woman you married. 

First, why marry? Why did you want to get married? We have to start off by wanting to be married right? I'm sure there are those occasional shockers of "Oh my goodness this person is so awesome I want to get married now" :)

It is society that plants in our heads that this is just the next step? Maybe it is your moral values-maybe being physical with someone outside of your marriage is not an option and you just cannot live without the luvin's? :)

If I think back to when I dreamed of finding my "soulmate" which is what I called the person I would marry from the age of 14! I remember having a desire to be loved in a special way. There was this inner desire to be desired... if that makes sense?

Now obviously I could not put that into words at a young age but now I can see that is what it was. 

As I got older, I wanted to be apart of a relationship that promised me I would always have backup. Someone to cheer me on. Someone to always be there.  Always having a best friend. Having someone to always laugh with. 

I wanted some one to understand me like no one else did, someone I had no secrets with. 

Most of all, someone who CHOSE me from everyone else. Who thought "That is her. I want to spend my life with her! She is so great!" Be accepted with no judgment or ridicule. 

These all seem so selfish now to me.. .because after I got married the reasons for staying married changed. 

I wanted to stay married because together we were a team for God and what he has planned for us. We have a ministry together. I want to show a love close to how God loves us here on earth. I believe that is the ultimate purpose of marriage is to give Glory to God. 

I wanted to stay married because I wanted to be all that I wanted for myself to Josh. I want to be his cheerleader, encourager, helpmate, his best friend. I want to be the one the helps him up and the one he confides in. I want to be the one who accepts him without judgment and ridicule.

I LOVE him for him. 

As I re-read this it does seem a tall order? But do you know that I have these things and I am blessed to be these things for my Josh? 

Is it easy? Does it happen all the time? NO. But we do try. We have alot of apologies around here and lots of compromise. We have alot of explaining expectaions. But at the end of the day we hug, we love, we kiss, and we pray. 

It is just like our walk with God, a continuing work in progress. 

I am a Happy Wife and I'm so glad to be apart of what Fawn has done with the Happy Wives Club! And seriously if you are wanting to read an awesome book about marriage, maybe your needing some encouragement for your relationship go order her book!! Promise you won't be disappointed!

Aunt LaLa

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Monday, December 23, 2013

Merry Christmas from Aunt LaLa

It is here!! Can you believe it? Christmas is here! I love Christmas, I always have. Christmas was a magical time on my family. I love the lights, the giving hearts, the love, the songs, the warm fuzy feelings, and most of all celebrating the birth of my savior!! Found in the book of Luke... I love reading this story with Josh. It is our own celebration...even though you may hear it or maybe sound just routine.. He truly is the reason for the season!!  You can read about him in Luke 1 and 2

26 God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, 27 to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. 28 The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.” 29 Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. 30 But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. 31 You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus. 32 He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, 33 and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.

Lawson Christmas tree '13
O and E ready for the light show!

J and LaLa with 2 of their favorites

Pixel getting into the Christmas spirit

My sweet cousin and her husband sent us a beautiful ornament celebrating our angel

Merry Christmas!!
Aunt LaLa

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

2,190 days

As of December 1st it has been 2,190 days of being married to my best friend. On December 1, 2007 I was blessed to become a Mrs. to one of the best people I know.

6 years we have been on this journey. I love how one of my friends described Josh and I's relationship

We have had "quite the love affair"

Which is so true. We  have a passion for one another and a longing to be near one another. I miss him when I'm not with him.

I told him last night when we are apart I feel half of me is missing.

We have faced some hard times. We have been jobless...We have lost....We have been betrayed...

Everything we have been through we have gotten stronger. We are far from perfect. We are selfish at times, forget to pray together, we lack in encouraging one another...

However we are passionate about being better. And truly being an example of what God wants marriage to look like.

Here are a few reasons why I love my Josh...

He always kisses me bye, even if it is just to go into another room

When I'm anxious he is patient and tries to do his best to offer support, he always prays with me

When I'm upset he hates it and tries to fix it

He doesn't let me sit in my pity party

He is so positive!

Sometimes he is a big kid, just like me :)

He loves card tricks lately, so I have my own personal show

He pretty much never tells me no :)

I love that we can talk just by looking at each other.

He loves my family as much as I do

He is the best uncle

He has done kitchen duty almost the whole 6yrs of marriage

He has supported me in everything I do

He gives me great bear hugs

He can pick me up :)

We always laugh together

I could go on & on...

I love you sweetness!

Aunt LaLa

Friday, December 13, 2013

Heavy Heart

Not really the first post I wanted to write after Thanksgiving, but it is on my heart. It is so upsetting that again we are watching a shooting at a school in Colorado. 

I just do not understand what is going on and why? I know there are several opinions politically and otherwise of the reasons. 

I cannot stop thinking about the shooter today who was a student. I hate what he did, I hate that his actions wounded two other students, I hate that his actions caused these parents and students to experience such a tragedy... 

But I DO NOT hate the shooter. What was going through his mind? Why did he do this? What was he thinking right before he took his own life? 

My stomach is sick, sick with the thoughts of the shooters family and his friends... or anyone who has contact with him... thinking what could I have done? Did I do enough? 

It is just sickening... 

I read on a local news station on Facebook that when they announced that the shooter killed himself there were comments of "good" "why did he have to kill himself, could he not face punishment?" "great another opportunity to gun control" 

Are you kidding me? Where is our comapassion? Where are the people who could have reached out more to this student? 

My heart just breaks... 

I'm thankful that is was not as bad as it could have been. I'm thankful that only 2 were wounded and non have lost their lives besides the shooter. 

I'm praying hard for these families and the families of the Sandy Hook tragedy. Those of past tragedies like columbine. I know memories have to resurface. 

Hugging my family extra hard today. 

Aunt LaLa