Thursday, November 28, 2013

Happy Thanksgiving '13

Happy Thanksgiving to you! I hope you know how thankful I am to know each of you through this blog world! 

All my love,
Aunt LaLa

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Good Intentions

I had intentions of writing a post for everyday this week to talk about what I'm thankful for 
I had intentions of cleaning my house today 
I had intentions of finishing up my presentation and paper 
I had intentions of starting a new devotional I had intentions of so many things.. 

But I have not done one of them!

 I love this time of year! The family, the celebration, the food, the laughter! 

I'm thankful for my family! 

 We are a loud bunch and there are always awkward things being said. We laugh at each other and poke fun at each other! 

It is great! 
I love everyone of them! 

Here are a couple of pics of the crazies... 


My aunt and grandmother... um yeah.. LOL

My cousin and I

My nephew and I

Little stinker told me to close my eyes and make a face...

Monday, November 18, 2013

Wife After God

I started following Jennifer at Unveiled Wife early this year.

I love her desire and passion to help marriages. When I got married I was fortunate enough to have some what of a realistic view of marriage. I knew it would be work, but honestly I never imagined the struggles, arguments, crisis we would face in our marriage. 

I truly believe that the enemy tries to isolate us and make us feel we struggle alone. He has tried so in my grief. 

Any one who knows J and I know that we have a special love, we are each others help mates. When God created each of us, when we were in our mother's wombs, we were meant for each other. 

I do not think that our society promotes happy marriages, it does not promote the marriage that God wants us to have. 

I love journaling and devotions... obviously. 

Jennifer wrote a devotional called "Wife After God".  I wrote Jennifer and told her I would love to do a book review for her devotional. I was so excited when I got the email with my copy of the devotional.

It is a 30-day devotional that I have dragged out for now almost 2 months. I will tell you why, this devotional has given so much food for thought. I went into this with my expectations high, I always do when it comes to devotionals. 

I look for words of wisdom that challenge in my personal walk in Christ. 
Realistic applicable message
Devotions that are parallel with the word of God
Word of God being the foundation of the devotions

Let me tell my expectations were met and went beyond!

I have been challenged as a woman of God in every aspect not just being a wife. Honestly if I was not a wife there is so much potential for change.The scriptures are so embedded in this devotional and it is applicable. Having a challenge for each day which I loved... it was a challenge that I could obtain.

One of the other aspects I loved was there is a social media implementation which I loved! Another was the journal questions, really challenging me. Made me think and look at myself, & how I could be  a better woman of God. 

I cannot promote this devotional enough. It truly changed me. Through this book, God has shown me so much. I am better for it. It has made me appreciate and love my husband more. My walk with Christ is better.

I recommend you buying this you can read more about the devotional HERE and purchase it HERE

I know that I will be purchasing a hard copy for myself, as well as a couple of Christmas presents.

Thank you so much Jennifer for you passion and caring enough about marriages to write this devotional! 

Aunt LaLa

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Is it my turn yet?

I think I've asked myself this question many many times.

My sister is expecting again. She will be having my nephew Mason in April. I have not met her fiance but she seems to be happy, and I'm happy for her. I know that God has a plan for each of us...

But honestly this broke my heart. And maybe I should not write about this but it is how I feel. I know my sister would understand if she read this. She has lost a baby, my nephew Ashton. She lost him in 2008 and it was heartbreaking. She was about 4/5 months when Ashton passed. Thankfully she has been able to carry JJ and Cayden ,not without difficulties, but they are healthy.

Now, I say all that to say I cannot say I was not heart broken when I found out initially she was pregnant. Honestly I was angry at God.

However, in the last few weeks I have worked on processing all of this and talking it out with God. I have to keep reminding myself what God has shown me.

1. I do not know what God's plan is for my sister, her fiance, and the kids. I have not idea what amazing plan he has for little Mason. It is not my decision what should and should not happen.

2. God has a unique plan just for J and I. It is uniquely created for our good with the best for us. So I MUST continue to trust in the ONE and only that can see the WHOLE picture.

3. J and I have actually have a plan and it involves waiting on trying to conceive. We feel it is a much better plan. Somehow the desire in my heart overrides my mind. We are not preventing getting pregnant. However we are not aggressively trying.

Since I know people are wondering and have asked what is the update on whether we are trying, not trying, adopting...

I know there are several who are praying for us and trust me we feel them. Even though we have a plan we still grieve our Hope and struggle sometimes with wondering if/when we will be parents.

I graduate in May 2014. Which is not that far off! After I graduate and hopefully have a secure job we will meet with our doctors and schedule to meet with a fertility specialist and get us both thouroughly checked out. At that point we will decide if we will continue through with IVF or another form of treatment. I do not think I can handle failed treatment or another miscarriage. So it really depends on our doctors findings.

If we decide that having a child biologically may not happen we will then begin to raise and save money to adopt. Our hearts are in-love with the thought of adoption we just do not know if it will be sooner or later that we adopt. But it will happen.

I think this post is long enough... Hope you all have a great rest of the week!

Aunt LaLa

Monday, November 4, 2013


Life is full of things you can never prepare for.

We all make plans, goals, dream about the future...

In reality, we do not know what is going to happen tomorrow or in the next moment.

When the enemy drags us down and keep us in the dark places of bitterness, anger, discontent, depression, grief, negativity... we miss out.

We miss out on laughs and good times because we are so consumed with our junk. Do we really want to live like that?

I do not.

But have you ever noticed how easy it is to get to that place and stay there? How it is so hard to get back that happiness? Ever sat down and thought about that?

Maybe I am a different breed (smile) but I think a lot. I'm super aware of my decisions and emotions. Most of the time that is not a bad thing, but when I allow myself to get in those previous mentioned dark places it is certainly NOT a good thing.

There has been so many words of wisdom I've heard over the weekend.  Through other women and through the Holy Spirit speaking to my heart.

Some I like list  and bullet points. It is always my go to when I need to sort things out.

So here are some things I've realized over the weekend and what I'm holding onto through this stressful season.
  • When I'm feeling so down, depressed, overwhelmed - I need to ask myself how much scripture have I read? How much am I talking with God? Our bibles are full of living word. 
Hebrews 4:12 "For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart." 
Scripture DOES all of this! It also shines light into my soul!
Psalm 119:105 "Your word is a lamp to my feet And a light to my path."
  • In these times of uncertainty and feeling a little forgotten by God (he never leaves us or forsakes us Joshua 1:9). This is where our faith comes in. Faith is not seeing. We must hold onto his word and promises. Trusting him with our lives. 
2 Corinthians 4:18 "So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."
2 Corinthians 5:7 "For we walk by faith not by sight"
  • Lifelines- I went to a women's meeting over the weekend. The theme was lifelines. When you think of a lifeline what is the image that pops into your head? This is what pops in mine now---->
We have people in our lives who love us. We have people who are in our community that will help us. Sometimes we get so caught in being that lifeline for people (I'M GUILTY) we forget to reach out. Some of us have this thing imbedded in us to help EVERYONE, be there, be encouraging, be strong... but sometimes we need the encouragement, the hug, the prayers. The enemy does want to see us reaching out to our peers for help in prayer. Because guess what? There is power in numbers and there is power in prayer!

 Matthew 18:19-20 "Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst."
Hebrews 10:23-24 "and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near."
Here is a great LINK to more scripture about prayers!! 

I know this is lengthy but I felt I needed to share this. Be encouraged!! The things we facing are only for a season, and with each step God is with us! We are victors through Christ!

Aunt LaLa