Sunday, December 29, 2013

Why do people get married?

This post is part of the Happy Wives Club Blog Tour which I am delighted to be a part of along with hundreds of inspiring bloggers. To learn more and join us, click here! 

This blog tour had me thinking of what I wanted to say about marriage... I look around me and I see some unhappy marriages and I see some HAPPY WIVES :) (happy marriages)

When I see the unhappy ones I wonder if they have forgotten why they got married in the first place? 

I think even a happy and healthy marriage you have those bad days where there is miscommunications, hurt feeling, and unmet expectations. 

I love my hubs, I'm a HAPPY WIFE! But guess what? My Josh and I are human and boy do we fail. 

On those days where it seems we are just "off" or maybe it is a transitional period or what ever life throws at you maybe it would be a good idea to remind your self why you married the man/woman you married. 

First, why marry? Why did you want to get married? We have to start off by wanting to be married right? I'm sure there are those occasional shockers of "Oh my goodness this person is so awesome I want to get married now" :)

It is society that plants in our heads that this is just the next step? Maybe it is your moral values-maybe being physical with someone outside of your marriage is not an option and you just cannot live without the luvin's? :)

If I think back to when I dreamed of finding my "soulmate" which is what I called the person I would marry from the age of 14! I remember having a desire to be loved in a special way. There was this inner desire to be desired... if that makes sense?

Now obviously I could not put that into words at a young age but now I can see that is what it was. 

As I got older, I wanted to be apart of a relationship that promised me I would always have backup. Someone to cheer me on. Someone to always be there.  Always having a best friend. Having someone to always laugh with. 

I wanted some one to understand me like no one else did, someone I had no secrets with. 

Most of all, someone who CHOSE me from everyone else. Who thought "That is her. I want to spend my life with her! She is so great!" Be accepted with no judgment or ridicule. 

These all seem so selfish now to me.. .because after I got married the reasons for staying married changed. 

I wanted to stay married because together we were a team for God and what he has planned for us. We have a ministry together. I want to show a love close to how God loves us here on earth. I believe that is the ultimate purpose of marriage is to give Glory to God. 

I wanted to stay married because I wanted to be all that I wanted for myself to Josh. I want to be his cheerleader, encourager, helpmate, his best friend. I want to be the one the helps him up and the one he confides in. I want to be the one who accepts him without judgment and ridicule.

I LOVE him for him. 

As I re-read this it does seem a tall order? But do you know that I have these things and I am blessed to be these things for my Josh? 

Is it easy? Does it happen all the time? NO. But we do try. We have alot of apologies around here and lots of compromise. We have alot of explaining expectaions. But at the end of the day we hug, we love, we kiss, and we pray. 

It is just like our walk with God, a continuing work in progress. 

I am a Happy Wife and I'm so glad to be apart of what Fawn has done with the Happy Wives Club! And seriously if you are wanting to read an awesome book about marriage, maybe your needing some encouragement for your relationship go order her book!! Promise you won't be disappointed!

Love 
Aunt LaLa

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5 comments:

  1. This post makes me smile so big it hurts. I love you baby so very much!

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  2. Such a great blog Lauren! Inspiring and encouraging! Keep focusing on your marriage in these busy days is not easy for couples. Sitting down at night and really listening to each other then praying for patience and forgiveness for each others faults is on the right track indeed. Keeeeep blooooging!

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  3. Hmm, tried to post and google ate it! Trying again...

    My favorite part was - I want to be the one the helps him up and the one he confides in. I want to be the one who accepts him without judgment and ridicule.
    That totally resonates for me as I tell my hubby all the time, I love being the one who knows all his stories and sharing all of mine of course.
    Great Post Aunt Lala!
    XO
    Maggie

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  4. Aunt Lala:

    Your post is so sweet and thoughtful. Thank you for sharing your story,

    Laura

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  5. Love this, Lauren! "We have alot of apologies around here and lots of compromise. We have alot of explaining expectaions. But at the end of the day we hug, we love, we kiss, and we pray. It is just like our walk with God, a continuing work in progress." Reminds me of that quote, "Motto for bride and groom: We are a work in progress with a lifetime commitment."

    Thank you so much for joining the blog tour, Aunt Lala!

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