It was not supposed to be this way
I am one of the 15% of women that has been diagnosed with postpartum depression.
Over the last few years there have been some very hard seasons of life.
One of those hard seasons was infertility which was a hot topic here on the blog.
We lost our baby, Hope.
After four years of trying to get pregnant it happened! We conceived without any help of medicine... our miracle baby.
The pregnancy was pretty uneventful. Worked hard on keeping my sugar levels down.
I just thought finally, I get my hearts desire. Ethan had been growing very fast. At my 36 week ultrasound they were saying he was close to 11lbs. On September 14th in the evening Ethan wasn't moving much. It had me very worried. The next morning I was scheduled to be checked again because of his rapid growth. At the ultrasound Ethan was not moving but his heartbeat was strong. Long story short emergency cesarean, Ethan went to NICU for 3 weeks. I did not get to hold him until he was a week old. I had to leave him every night. I felt so robbed, this was not supposed to happen this way.
|Fist time I held Ethan|
Hands down the most awful time in my life.
After Ethan was 8 weeks old I returned to work. It was so difficult. We had just finished moving unexpectedly. One of my dear friend passed away right before Ethan was born, it was just starting to settle in.
I started having anxiety attacks, I was not happy. I was only happy with Ethan. I felt so down. I could not function in my job adequately. I really only had energy to take care of Ethan and that was all I could handle.
When Ethan was born I had stopped counseling with my therapist simply because there was so much going on I was not able to find a good time.
After talking to Josh we decided I needed to talk to my Doctor and contact my therapist.
After talking to my doctor and therapist I was diagnosed with Postpartum Depression.
I was so frustrated with myself. When you become a mom its like as a women you put so much pressure on yourself.
Honestly I felt like a failure.
It was decided it was best for me to take some time off work and concentrate on getting better and be a good mommy to E. (Just a side note I was also put on two different medications to combat this)
After a few therapy sessions and much prayer I started to get stronger. I realized I do not have to explain myself if I cannot, I do not have to be super women. My job was only to be the best mommy I could be, by working on myself I was doing that. I learned to be kind to myself. I had went through something traumatic, it was okay to feel the way I felt.
I have not really shared my struggle. Or how depressed I was. It has been a very personal time of growth. Emotionally and spiritually.
But I am not ashamed or embarrassed. God has used these trails to further my testimony and hopefully help someone else.
God is faithful, I have never felt more strong and free from the past then I do now.
|On my 30th birthday|
Listen, do not let the enemy keep you isolated. You are not alone. Even if your dealing with depression or anxiety...do not be ashamed. Talk to some one. Don't fight it alone.
Sorry this post is so long, but I wanted to share my story.
And continue to keep things real. As always I'm here if you need prayer or to talk. Shoot me an email auntlala25 at Gmail.
For more information on postpartum depression go to http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/postpartum-depression-facts/index.shtml